A
dildo can be any object designed for insertion into the vagina or anus.
They have been around for about 2500 years - only the materials have changed.
Both heterosexual and homo-sexual men and women can use dildos for personal
penetration or shared pleasure with their partners. Sex with a dildo
gives complete control over manipulation for personal pleasure. It's
a good way for a woman to keep her vagina toned for intercourse, a great
way to have sex without a partner present and a dildo gives way to lots
of creative possibilities. There are so many different kinds of dildos
that shopping can be a bit confusing. The most important factor in
your dildo purchase will be personal preference and the primary use.
Because
dildos are dry and somewhat porous they absorb moisture so it is a good
idea to always use a lubricant. The muscles of both the vagina and
the anus tighten and constrict. If you are a first time user it's
a good idea to lube up and do some external stimulation. The tip
of the dildo simulates the head of a penis so moving it up and down on
the clitoris will provide great stimulation. Once you feel comfortable
you can move on to internal insertion. You can do a few tightening
and constricting exercises of the vagina or anus muscles first. When
the blood is flowing through the area exhale and insert. Do not insert
further than is comfortable and remember that you control the experience.
Once you feel comfortable, you can start getting creative by placing the
dildo on a surface that you can straddle. If you are sharing a dildo
with a partner be sure to use a condom and always use a condom if you are
moving the dildo from the anus to the vagina.
Dildos
come in all shapes and sizes and materials. As with all adult toys
personal preference is all that counts.
Cyberskin
- is the hottest new material. Called
by other names such as Ultra Skin it is very realistic in texture and feels
just like real skin.
Silicone
- is considered the top of the line.
The reasons are the texture (soft, non-porus, velvety surface), easy to
clean and it warms up to body temperature.
Realistics
- is made of soft rubber material and colored
with a realistic skin tone. Many adult stars are the models for these molds.
Jellies
- are soft, pliable, have a translucent quality
and come in lots of festive colors. Because they are more rounded
and smooth they have a different sensation that the standard texture dildo.
Lucite
- are inflexible, easy to clean, nearly indestructible,
but do not warm as easily to body temperature. They should be considered
when you want hard penetration.
G-Spot
(curved dildos) - these dildos have a rounded
end for G Spot stimulation. After insertion, the curved end should
be pointed upwards towards the naval. Another popular use for this
kind of dildo is male prostate stimulation.
Non-phallic
Dildos - it doesn't have to be shaped like
a penis to work and there are lots of alternatives to the penis-shaped
dildo.
Anal
Dildos (Butt Plugs or Anal Plugs) - are designed
specifically for anal insertion. They are flared at the base so as
not to get lost. They are manufactured out of the same dildo materials
mentioned above and come in many different sizes and colors. There
are also anal probes which are are plugs mounted on a handle.
Double
Dildos - are constructed with a head at each
end. This toy can be shared by two people at the same time or inserted
in the vagina and anus at the same time. Double dildos can be either
the same size on either end or can be purchased with different dimensions.
The key to a double dildo experience is positioning and practice.
Strap
Ons (Harness) - A dildo strap-on can either
go around the hips or thigh. The harness is made of straps that radiate
out from a central ring where the dildo is placed and then radiates out
resting against the body. Only a dildo with a flared end will work.
The best strap ons are made of leather or nylon and have tight fitting
rings, buckles or velcro. When purchasing a strap on you need
to consider the size of the dildo that you want to use.
The
biggest mistake people make in purchasing a dildo is buying one that is
too large. While it is true that the body can accommodate many different
sizes, keep in mind that a thinner shaft is easier to to maneuver.
If you have never purchased a dildo before, try the "Vegetable Test".
Clean up a carrot, zucchini and a cucumber and see what feels best - when
you have decided what works then measure the length of the the vegetable
(both length and diameter) and you will have your answer. If you
are not into vegetables the "Finger Test" will also work. If you have recently
had any kind of genital surgery or a long absence from sexual relations
then smaller is better - you can always upgrade. The width of the dildo
may be more important than the length. Dildos vary in diameter ranging
from 1" to 6". As a rule of thumb 1 - 1 1/2" in diameter will be
large enough. The most common dildo lengths are 6, 7, 8 and 9 inches. The
average purchase if for a 6-8" shaft length. If you like very deep
penetration, choose a dildo 8" or longer. You can always thrust less deeply,
but you cannot make a dildo that is too short reach further. Vaginal
length often correlates to height, so if you have a shorter frame you will
probably prefer a shorter dildo.
When
looking at a dildo for anal play, remember that there is a curve in the
rectum 3-5 inches in from the opening, so consider something shorter than
3". Read more here!
After
purcahsing a dildo open the package and allow the it to air out so
any plastic odors will dissipate. Wash in antiseptic soap and water. A
stronger cleaning solution is a bleach and water solution of [1 part bleach
to 9 parts water] but read the label for cleaning instructions before using
bleach. Your dildo will last longer and be easier to keep clean if
you use it with a condom. If you are using it by yourself, make sure
that you wash the dildo with antiseptic soap and water after every use
and especially moving it from one part of the body to another. Warm,
antiseptic soapy water and a thorough rinsing is an absolute MUST!
Silicon dildos can be boiled in hot water and even washed in the dish washer.
If you have been diagnosed with any type of STD, vaginatis or any other
medical problem use a condom so that you do not keep re-infecting yourself.
Always use a condom when sharing toys. Make sure to dry your dildo
carefully - any left over moisture can cause growth of fungus or mold.
Store your dildo(s) in a cool, dry place. Direct sunlight or excessive
heat will cause disfiguration and fading. (More cleaning
tips here).
If
this is your first dildo purchase buy the less expensive model or buy several
of the less expensive models and experiment till you find what is right
for you.
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Note
on sizes: Measurements given are for length & diameter. Diameter tells
you the thickness of an item, NOT the measurement around (circumference).
To figure out the circumference multiply the diameter by Pi - 3.141593. |
